Friday, May 31, 2013

...And Then The Air Turned Blue

I took my two little ones to Target with me today and while I was price comparing products in the baby/toddler section the air turned blue. I overheard a lady's conversation because she was speaking loud enough for me to hear as she went a few aisles away and ended stopped in the toddler clothes section. Her speech was quite choppy except one word she said knew well and repeated it continuously in her conversation ...the f-bomb.
That word replaced regular words,
"I don't *beep* with my sister."
"I don't *beep* with that."
"I just don't give a *beep* about that."
I gathered from the words I could understand, she was going off about some relationship that had gone wrong. After more than a few f-bombs in the few sentences I heard, I tried hard to block her out. I found myself upset at her disregard for the other people around her. I've got my two little tots with me and I would rather them not hear such language. I was happy that they were too preoccupied to pay any attention to what words she chose to speak into our air.  Of all places she chose to speak this way, she chose to fill the air of the baby section of a supermarket. I've had some intense conversations that were not seasoned with curse words, that I refuse have in a public place. I don't want to automatically include everyone within earshot into such conversations. People around are silent participants forming opinions and thoughts about your conversation and conduct. You never know who is listening. Take this for example, I was at a holiday party and met people in our neighborhood for the first time. Anxiety was high for me as I felt like I did not fit in for various reasons. A few days later I had gone out to the store and ran into a lady who immediately called me out to her two little boys, "Hey look there's our neighbor!" I was embarrassed because I looked rather messy. Now imagine if I was in the middle of a conversation seasoned with the f-bomb. You never know who is observing you and when you may run across them again. What if she never identified herself and stayed silent, knowing who and just observed.What if I was to add in these situations, she's on city council board, my husband's wife's boss, a teacher at my child's school?  What if she was the lady that was going to hire me at some point? What if my pastor was in earshot? Hmmm... suddenly the f bomb isn't so appealing and if it still is and you claim Christ, a spiritual check is in order. Even if you don't believe Christ is your savior, it's still bad social conduct.  It is never ok. The f bomb and cursing does not intensify your words, it degrades you. If you don't know it, your words do have power. My words have power. Ever wonder why unfortunate things happen or why some people make you feel good when you are around them? Take a look at the words spoken. Negative or positive? The f bomb/cursing reaps blessings? I don't think so!
Luke 6:45 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
45 The good person produces good things from the store of good in his heart, while the evil person produces evil things from the store of evil in his heart. For his mouth speaks what overflows from his heart.

Lets take this conversation in another direction. I was embarrassed on another level, this lady was another woman of color. Being real, we already have a few bad stereotypes about us, why prove them to be true? I'm constantly fighting the negative stereotypes but when I see others perpetuating the stereotypes, it makes me mad. So this is my vent.  Be aware and care because you represent more than just yourself! Ladies of color we have got to do better. The laws of attraction are always at work. No that's not new age, in fact it's old age. The bible tells us to be careful of what we think and say,
Philippians 4:7-9 Complete Jewish Bible (CJB)
7 Then God’s shalom, passing all understanding, will keep your hearts and minds safe in union with the Messiah Yeshua. 8 In conclusion, brothers, focus your thoughts on what is true, noble, righteous, pure, lovable or admirable, on some virtue or on something praiseworthy.

ok. I'm done.


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